The only gay guys who think it's awful are gay guys who sub out their superego for Tumblr and fap to fat furry babies when they think no one's watching. Gayness is not a dumping ground for the blimpy prole Harvey Weinstein creeps that women do not want to fuck.
I mean this with all my heart: If a woman can write "Cat Person", a short story about how fucking gross and awful it is on a physical and emotional level to fuck a bara dude, and get a fucking career out of it, then you don't have to pretend to like that kind of guy either. Please, for the sake of your own mental health, do not let people impose shit on you that they themselves are incapable of tolerating. Do not let them impose shit on you that they are only capable of tolerating because they're autistic. You owe them nothing. You do not have to let yourself be fucked with. You do NOT have to let yourself be fucked with. Godspeed. I love you